My inspiration to become part of and involved in Men's Behavioural Change Programmes comes from seeking formal qualifications as a profession in Counselling and combining these with a multitude of life experiences. Growing up we men have generational approaches, behaviours, teachings and expectations instilled in us, we experience other facets of life from society, media and our own personal experiences some of which reinforce who we become, not necessarily all ideal approaches. We as men are responsible for how we apply these absorbed facets of our character, our surrounding life and the people in them impacted by the influences we have on them.
Reflecting on the whole of humanity we men being the other half are responsible for some amazing achievements but we as part of this species are also responsible for some outcomes that have born massive consequences and resulted in huge destruction.
From my personal experiences of life witnessing, be impacted by and being part of the resulting injury to life of; abuse, abuse of substances, abuses of perceived privilege, the denial of truth, emotional onslaught to others, some of who we apparently care for, it's time to make a difference, to help change.
I am privileged to be invited to be part of Heavy M.E.T.A.L. Group, to offer my services as a Co-Facilitator of this amazing programme created by David Nugent and presented by him and the others that come before me. I am a qualified counsellor registered with the Australian Counselling Association, a Graduate member of the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors and continually continue study in the associated fields of counselling and therapies. I have had experience with the procedures of Family Law and also studied the subject via such avenues as member of the Mental Health Academy.
I believe I have something to offer, to contribute to help. I have witnessed the amazing positive changes in men, the blossoming of the good men that preside inside. If you have recognised that change is necessary there is no better place to do it.
Kelly Murphy from the Australian Centre of Trauma and Wellness supports our partners as a 3rd party contact. This ensures partners are being supported with confidentiality. Kelly supports partners and families to link with supports, ensure safety and support families adjusting to the participants healing and growth journey with Heavy M.E.T.A.L. program
Kelly is a qualified and registered counsellor with the Australian Counselling Association with ten years’ experience working with people who have experienced trauma and adversity.
As a therapist, and someone with lived experience, Kelly has seen many gaps in services and communities. Often this makes things worst for people who are already going through a difficult time. As someone who has also faced adversity in life, Kelly appreciates the importance of having a caring person to stand beside you, and support you from where you are at, to help overcome and be the best you can be. Kelly’s work is underpinned with client focused, evidence based, trauma informed practices. One of Kelly’s many attributes is her ability to work at the pace of the client, while still creating growth and a space for healing.
For the last 3 years Kelly has provided an interagency service for the women and children whose partner has engaged in the Heavy M.E.T.A.L program with the focus to offer practical support to help families thrive with implementing a plan to strengthen their safety and the safety of their children, to reduce the impact of the ongoing effects of family violence and to heal from the traumatic experiences at home.
Kelly offers individual counselling sessions for the partners or family members via phone, video link or face to face from her office in Pakenham.
I joined the Heavy M.E.T.A.L Program in 2007 after realising my behaviour was going to end my marriage.
The program helped me and my family immensely as I was able to understand how the impact my behaviours and attitudes had on my family.
After completing each level of the program, I continued attending Phase two just to keep my learning and understanding up.
After three years I was asked by David to become a peer educator and for the last 12 years I have been a co – facilitator and peer educator with the program. I have found doing this work very rewarding, I have been able to encourage and support other men who have struggled with letting go of the behaviours and attitudes I had to face in the beginning. Seeing men break away from the cycle of violence and hear the positive feedback from their partners and children confirms this work is having a positive ripple effect on our community.
I believe in the work we do and I believe men can change, it takes a lot of honesty and a lot of hard work to change attitudes and behaviours but it can be done!
My joy and energy is derived from liberating others from the limitations of their current perspective and symptoms through the empowerment of unhelpful body memories and self-understanding.
I have gained vast life experience, having raised 5 children on alternative natural medicines, philosophy, and experience. Privilege to have worked with special needs within the disability field for many years.
I am a qualified counsellor, registered Level 4 membership with Australian Counselling Association, and ACA membership of the College of clinical Supervisors.
My passion is to facilitate transformation through my support and coach my clients to discover their core issues that are creating pain, and addictions emotionally, physically, or other symptoms of feeling in an unwell state.
With empathy and compassion, addressing challenges that may be confronting yet liberating, with good humour to achieve their potential, purpose, and well-being.
My centre healing approach counteracts stress, anxiety, depression, aches, and pain, releasing endorphins for relief of mood-altering chemicals, with a nurturing sensitivity and acceptance.
My intentions in therapy are ...
To facilitate healing through the release of emotion and gaining of self-awareness, self-esteem, confidence, acceptance, and commitment to achieve their desired results by achieving harmony in behaviour and feelings.
I co-facilitate development of the skill set for self (to be without negative judgment) thus achieving vitality, creating hope and the ability to be in the present moment, achieving energy and wellbeing.
For the last 5 years I have provided an interagency service for the women and children whose partner has engaged in the Heavy M.E.T.A.L program with the goal to empower women to improve the quality of their lives and fulfill their potential.
In 2002, Tanya started as a participant of a women’s domestic violence program and has gone on to design, develop and facilitate many programs, forums and workshops to support and advocate for women and children in saying no to domestic violence. Facilitating domestic violence workshops for health professionals and police officers as well as present in General Practioner’s programs.
Tanya is dedicated to helping men, women and children to enable themselves to find a better way of dealing with their challenges and increase their chances of having positive, healthy relationships and lives.
In 2006, Tanya became a part of the team as a facilitator with the Heavy M.E.T.A.L Group, in the men’s, women’s and couples programs and has enjoyed seeing the changes people have made in their lives with hard work and dedication.
Tanya has a Certificate IV Introduction to Domestic Violence and a Certificate IV Train the Trainer & Train Small Groups and is completing a Bachelor of Applied Social Science (Counselling) and as a result of her work with Heavy M.E.T.A.L she has realised how critical it is to support young people to make better choices earlier in their lives and is deeply interested in working within the youth justice system.