Men’s Behaviour Change Program
Sorry Men! There is no quick fix to making change. The process of behaviour change is a long one, and participation is no way predictive of positive change. At the same time there is evidence that men can and do modify their behaviour, research over the longer term demonstrates that it is exceedingly difficult to predict which men will sustain positive change or for how long. I believe if you are serious and committed to making change this program will be of great benefit to you. Have a look at what others, who have attended and completed the program, have said under our testimonials.
For this reason the program consist of three phases;
The Phase 1
This level runs over two Victorian School terms (approximately 20 weeks). In this program participants are offered support and challenged in taking responsibility for their behaviour. This program is open where participants are welcome to join the program at any time. The men learn to break the pattern of their violent behaviour and are invited to consider a range of abusive, controlling acts and the consequences these have for women, children and other members of the community. In this group, basic skills are taught to improve the safety situation for others. In the second ten weeks, the program challenges their old behaviours, and belief systems. The course deals with a range of destructive behaviours, explores gender roles, it challenges the participant to question existing personal attitudes and feelings, which continue to encourage him to take a deeper responsibility for his own behaviour.
Prerequisite is to attend two assessment interviews, within 6 weeks of commencement date, with David Nugent
The Phase 2
This level runs for a semester over two Victorian school terms (approximately 20 weeks). This program is offered to men who have demonstrated they have changed their behaviour. This invitation is based on their participation and commitment to the Phase One Program and the feedback I receive from their partner/family. Communication skills (which include listening, assertiveness and responding skills) are taught and explored in this Phase. Ongoing support is provided for the participants and their partner; and a variety of topics are explored which enhance the participants well-being. This program is for Men who have the desire to continue with their self-development. This program will help enhance a solid foundation in their behaviour change so they can continue providing a safe environment for themselves and their families in the long term.
Prerequisites is to attend an assessment session with David Nugent and the participant must have completed a minimum 16 sessions of Phase 1 within 28 weeks of commencement date and have demonstrated change in behaviour.
The Phase 3: "Staying in Tune" program
This level is an ongoing support program empowering men to continue to be better men. The program builds on the principles used in the Phase 1 and 2 programs, which is educating and supporting men to maintain respectful and violence free relationships. This program runs once a month during the term. (usually 3 sessions per term)
The program is designed to help men identify and work towards individual goals, as well as support them to access additional services when required. The program will cover topics such as the following:
- Men and emotions
- Mental wellbeing for men; and the common challenges
- How to stay on top of Positive Mental Health
- Active Listening- The power of gratitude
- Creating a self-care toolkit
- Resolving conflict
- Looking at mindfulness
Why should you attend this program?
Often men do not have many mates they can talk about these things with. The restriction of emotional expression in many men's lives can lead to:
- a greater sense of isolation
- less support being available from loved ones
- health issues due to carrying chronic tension in the body
- bad coping strategies
- relationship difficulties due to an inability to resolve emotional conflicts
- psychological problems such as depression, anxiety and insomnia
This program is for men who do not want to become complacent and want to be better men, better husband/partners, better fathers and role models in our community.
For those women who are enrolled in the women’s group (have completed 3 terms) and for their partners who have completed Phase 2, we offer a special workshop over 10 evenings. Participants learn communication skills, ways of responding to each other, reflective listening skills and dealing assertively with criticism.
In a relationship, conflicts and difficulties are almost inevitable. It’s not the arguments and conflict that are bad for your relationship, it’s the way you handle conflicts and arguments that will help your relationship grow, or come to an end. In this program, participants are taught to respond to each other and stay focused on the issue that’s raised rather than become side-tracked with other issues.
Programs for Schools
David is passionate about bringing change in our society, as he believes very strongly change is possible. In his work with men and families, there has been a common theme about changing learned behaviour.
This theme is connected with the impact role models have had on their lives. These role models have melded this behaviour, which has led to problems in adulthood. Problems associated with relationships, communication, self-esteem, confidence, expressing emotions, confliction resolution etc. The list goes on! For this reason, David believes young men need to experience positive role models.
The programs, he has been running for young boys at schools over the last six years, encourages boys to get in tune with themselves, their family and their lives so that they may enter adulthood with self-awareness and understanding the importance of equality.
These programs have received a lot of positive recognition from the schools where they have been run. More importantly there has been regular positive feedback from students, teachers and parents. Testimonials (including video testimonials) and references can be provided to support this.
The programs: Behaviour Change Classes, Building a model airplane and installing petrol engine, Rock and Water Classes, Young Eagles Program and individual counselling for both student and parents.
Behaviour Change Program
This program aims at encouraging young boys to have pro social goals, skills and motivation. These skills include self-awareness; self-management (e.g. through stress management techniques); impulse control; active listening; empathy; the ability to understand non-verbal cues; conflict resolution with teachers, parents and other students; mediation. Without self-awareness, it is impossible to manage our behaviour and actions effectively.
Model Aeroplane Program
This program is aimed at building self-esteem and self-worth in a fun way. I feel the deepest need of all, the core emotional need of the human being, is for self-esteem. It is to feel respected and worthwhile. It is to be liked and valued by others particularly when part of a team. This program has a strong emphasis on team building and helping each other to complete the end project. Some of the student roles which are challenged are:
- being aggressive
- blocking or nit-picking
- clowning or joking to disrupt the work of the group
- being sarcastic or cynical
- taking all the credit
The program has had a lot of success with changing these negative behaviours to positive ones with the student’s working effectively and collaboratively.
Rock and Water Program
This program encourages boys to stand stronger in many ways. As important parts of communication they learn to sense, set and defend their own boundaries, particularly with situations of group pressure. They also learn to respect other boundaries, particularly those of girls. Boys learn how to use their imagination in enlarging their mental power in reaching a physical goal, but they also learn to use positive thoughts in order to reach their goals in everyday-life.
Some basic self-defence skills are taught in order to teach boys how to control and develop their power. This physical approach demands discipline and perseverance and teaches boys how to deal with conflicts without losing self-control. The Rock and Water Program at Secondary level addresses: standing strong, rock- and water attitude, mental power, awareness of boundaries, empathic feeling, intuition-training, prevention of sexual violence, group pressure, homophobia, body language and group-dynamics, success-strategies and expressing respect to others.
The program is very active with lots of physical exercises alternated with group-discussions. Each lesson is supported with questions and simple assignments in order to make a successful integration with every day-life.
Young Eagles Program
This program is an incentive for those students who have completed the Behaviour Change and Model Group program and has demonstrated a commitment by completing the weekly behaviour card.
As a pilot, David has organised these students to participate in the Royal Victorian Young Eagles Program at Moorabbin airport.
The mission of the Young Eagles Program is to provide a motivational aviation experience, focusing on a demonstration flight in an aeroplane. These flights are provided free of charge! It is our aim for the student to share in the exhilaration and freedom of flight just as their pilot, whose life has been positively influenced by aviation, has done. The hope is that the experience will spark a young person’s curiosity to learn more about aviation. A Young Eagle will also come to see and understand – as seen above through the eyes of an eagle – the true potential of life lies beyond everyday surroundings and may be reached through the pursuit of high personal goals.
Individual counselling has been very empowering for both students and parents. Particularly with issues associated with family conflict and violence. Over the years I have been able to encourage parents to engage with my adult programs which I run in the evening. This has been particularly helpful for families where there has been Police and Child Protection involvement. There is further information regarding this web site.
If you feel your school may be interested engaging with David Nugent services or if you have any queries please do not hesitate to contact him or call him on 0401 766 877