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Heavy M.E.T.A.L Group
Mens education towards anger and life.

Testimonials

Testimonials from people who have experienced the effects of the Heavy M.E.T.A.L program.

Anonymous

I can’t praise Dave & Jacqui enough after watching the show last night. I was astounded at the results having tried desperately to get through to my abusive partner who is now on community service for his anger issues and one step away from prison. I have left him. Great work with the gents and I really didn’t believe change was possible. Thank you to both and the team at heavy metal for great work and giving back to the community.

Anonymous

OMG… Just watched you on sunrise. When you mentioned 'tip-toing' around like on eggs shells, I knew there was something in this for me. My husband isn’t physically abusive, but the psychological control is definitely in play. I’m in Brisbane :-( so not sure what help would be available, but wanted to say, thanks for getting your services out there.

John

Hi Dave, It has been many years since I did your course and saw you on ABC tonight. In those days I was seeing my kids every second weekend and was struggling with anger. I want you to know that my kids still say I am a different dad, a happy dad, a dad they love. Before I met you they were scared of me just like I was with my father. We have an awesome relationship because of you. I still struggle to this day with anger. The difference is that I know the signs and I chose to be happy. I am in a job where I manager many men. I tell all of them that their kpi while on my jobs is to laugh, smile and have a happy day. My KPI for my foreman is that men want to work for them in a happy non threatening environment. Some men have come back to work and have said that their wives and partners have noticed a change in them. They are happy when they arrive home. Dave you have changed hundreds of peoples lives and still do to this day even though you are not here. You would have a laugh when on Construction sites the project manager, me, says ” I want you to be happy at work” and smile… Even the toughest blokes laugh… Forever grateful to you.

Jess and Sean

Dear Dave and Jaqui, Watching the documentary tonight really hit home for me. I was in tears when I first watched the trailer and have been every time I have showed it to friends and family, even more tears tonight through the whole film. I feel so blessed that Sean and I went through this journey with you both so early in our lives when we most needed you. We had a chance that many other men and women may have missed. We still use the tools you taught us today in our relationship two years later and we cannot thank you both enough. Group completely changed us both. The work you do is just amazing and I hope you continue to help families in Australia for many years to come, like someone said tonight you were born to do this job. Raising awareness is extremely important and that’s exactly what this documentary will do and from doing so, may save several families and perhaps even lives. I feel so lucky that we no longer need to attend group and that fear and abuse is no longer apart of our lives. Thankyou, thankyou, thankyou.

J

Congratulations! I have been feeling very depressed about the recent coverage of FV and the constant shaming of men. With no exploration of their (our/my) humanity, their lives, or discussion about whether they can be helped, let alone any thought of whether we actually should help these men, or how. (admittedly, we’ve seen some horrendous behaviour by a few men in the recent coverage on the ABC) Just finished watching the show, and feel at last someone has offered some hope, some solutions – maybe not for everyone, but at least having a crack at it – and seemingly having some success. For me, this is the approach that I think will work for many men. It aligns with my experience of what sort of approach works with men in men’s groups. Congrats to the facilitators – beautiful work. Congrats to the men themselves – how beautiful is it to see men grow in themselves – be empowered to take a hold of their lives So inspiring, and hopeful. Thank you. Regards J.

Anonymous

I can’t praise Dave & Jacqui enough after watching the show last night. I was astounded at the results having tried desperately to get through to my abusive partner who is now on community service for his anger issues and one step away from prison. I have left him. Great work with the gents and I really didn’t believe change was possible. Thank you to both and the team at heavy metal for great work and giving back to the community.

Michael Bentleigh East

The work that he does is brilliant and the way he is tackling the systemic toxic masculinity is vital work. In a primary setting we are not immune from it and see these power imbalance type behaviours being reinforced by dads and ignored or brushed over by mums. Last night really reinforced the importance of and reinvigorated my passion for, the programs we run to attempt to break these behaviours. Thanks again and keep up the great work.

Paul B Sandy Bay

The UTAS Student Living Team would like to thank you both for your recent Let’s Change the Story two-day professional development. This learning experience was invaluable in leading the Student Living Support Officers to develop self-awareness and understanding of attitudes that contribute to domestic violence. Staff gave very positive feedback in relation to the safe space that was facilitated, giving the opportunity for individual staff to self-reflect and develop self-awareness in relation to the Cycles of Behaviour and understanding the elements of power and control. They also enjoyed learning from the role plays and the viewing of the documentary ‘Call Me Dad’; connecting with the courageous stories of individuals trying to make the change. Our team supports a diverse student population and we now feel better equipped to understand and assist our residents with their relationships and have an impact on positive culture. We value the contribution the Heavy Metal Group is making in relation to changing community attitudes and working towards safer and more resilient communities. We certainly look forward to future opportunities to build staff capabilities and the coping strategies of our residents who are engaging in tertiary education at the University of Tasmania.

Scott Carson Parkdale

On Friday night I witnessed a room full of men reflect on their lives in the most humbling way. Every single one of us has acted in anger at some point... I felt everyone of us think a moment that they could of handled better... I can't thank Dave enough for his presentation as I feel it brings down barriers and gives you a door to open when you need it or even when you think you don't! If you are lucky enough to hear Dave talk then may I make the suggestion to pull up a chair because your about to receive value plus... I can't wait to learn more about his tools! Kudos Dave, Thank you!